Successful Match: Next Steps

Quick Update! 

Last week we met with our potential gestational carrier, her partner, and the surrogacy center. It went very well and all parties have agreed to move forward. Both the gestational carrier and ourselves were sent forms to sign for medical releases among other things. We both sent them back within 24 hours. 

Over the next few weeks, the process will continue towards medical clearance on the path to the embryo transfer. There are a few things that we need to accomplish prior to this. While our carrier goes through clearance and screening, Tobias and I have to set up an escrow account. This account will hold the funds meant to pay the carrier fee as well as reimburse her for agreed upon expenses. An escrow account is used to make sure that contracts are being fulfilled as well as avoid any awkward interpersonal situations that money can often cause. We also have to retain an attorney to draft and maintain the parentage agreement. This same attorney will help with court proceedings to make the future baby officially ours after birth. We have a meeting this Friday with a possible attorney, who, funny enough, is the husband of the surrogacy center director. 

I've also exchanged a few text messages with our carrier which has been super fun! She seems to be just as excited as we are and is invested in moving this process forward in a timely manner. 




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